"Mike is obviously harmless"

Whenever I read things like this all I can think of is "Wow, it must be nice to be a man sometimes."

:P

This will make you feel better.

http://lovelauraland.deviantart.com/art/Star-Trek-Pony-Commission-82906905

Told ya. :D

LOL.

I do what I can. :3

Here's another artist devoted to customizing MLPs. :)

http://mlpmeadows.deviantart.com/gallery/

BUT IT'S A ROMANTIC COMEDY U GUYZ!!!

OF COURSE IT'S NOT REALLY LIKE THAT! IT'S A FANTASY! GOSH, DON'T YOU BELIEVE IN LUV?!? I WANT TO FEEL GOOOOOD WHEN I GO TO MOOOVEEEZ111

I WISH MY STALKERZ WOULD JUMP DOWN IN A PARACHUTE LIKE THAT! NOT MY ACTUAL STALKERZ, BUT A PRETEND ONE WHO'S SORTA CUTE LIKE STEVE ZAHN! NO THIS ISN'T FILLING THE POPULAR DISCOURSE WITH WEIRD CREEPY MESSAGES!

ROMANTIC! COMEDEE!

U SHUT UP, THAT'S TOTALLY ROMANTIC, LIK, OMG, I WISH EDWARD WOOD COME WATCH ME SLEEP AT NITE!!!

YAY!!!

TOADALLY

Right. Because stalkers are never at fault for their obsessive behavior. Clearly, she started it and then kept leading him on, probably long after she told him to go away and never see her again and he ignored her.

Because never before has someone (male or female) had a crush on a person (male or female), that someone seem totally "harmless," so that person flirts with them and maybe has one night stand with them, and then it turns out that someone is a total psycho who thinks these cues means they should be together forever. Being stalked ISN'T fun, even if it never escalates to threating letters and dead animals, it's still scary and increadibly invasive.

IRL, you have no way of knowing if someone who pulls what Mike does in the movie is harmless or if you should just go into hiding now

EXACTLY. I read a report a few years ago that went into the mentality of stalkers. There are a lot of stalkers out there who stalk people who NEVER KNOW THEY ARE BEING STALKED. These stalkers stalk people, get obsessed with them, and then move on to someone else, often without their target ever being aware they're being stalked. NOW THAT'S FUCKING CREEPY TO THINK ABOUT.

Unless they snap and decide to upgrade the type of stalker they are. @_o

Man, I wish I could find that document. Now I'm freaking myself all out. I ran into this guy last year on the train who totally gave me "stalker" vibes and I'm soooo happy I haven't seen him since. Word to the wise, guise -- no one EVER wants to hear, "You're really a NICE PERSON, aren't you?" with that weird ass inflection stuck on, which the written word cannot adequately BEGIN to describe.

*Nodnod* Recently, my bestfriend's boyfriend had trouble with a girl he had slept with shortly before becoming her boyfriend (which sounds skanky, but the dating did start pretty spontaneously). Now, my friend and I totally believe she must have been stalking him, because he hadn't seen head or tail of her until, rather conveniently, he was so sick he wasn't thinking right.

So anyway, the BF is the kind of dude that can be absolutely out of senses sick and still walk his ass to campus and go to class. He arrives really early and decides to take a nap on a bench outside. He wakes up to his Ex-Lover ("EL") NUZZLING HIS ARM. Being both sleepy and badly sick, he's just kind of "lolwut?" and she says she's been thinking about him, misses him, and fully intends to steal him from his GirlFriend ("GF") -- (Which by the way, is a statement I LOATHE. It's NOT up to YOU who your ex is with; DEAL with it.) He's kind of just "um, okay, I'm going to go inside now," and thinks nothing of it. Obviously, if she intends to take him from his GF, but he has no intention of leaving his GF, there isn't a problem, right? (>.<)

So after class, he's so sick he's doing everything in his power to keep from puking on the lawn, apparently visably so. EL pops up again and says "Hey, come to my dorm with me so at least you can puke in the toilet." He goes. He pukes his guts out. They talk for an hour. She tells him how much of a good idea it is for her to drive him home. (NOW SHE KNOWS WHERE HE LIVES.)

He gets home, and he has left his phone at EL's dorm (he forgets it everywhere), so he gets online and tells GF about everything that happened. GF freaks out. GF tells me, I'm like "yeah, that's totally freak-out worthy." GF doesn't want to be the girl that says who her BF can and cannot hangout with, and does a lot of debating with him about it, and finally decides that this chick makes her worry about his safety and well-being and decides that she really wants him to say toodles to EL. Since EL isn't a highly valued friend, BF says okay, whatever.

A couple hours later, there's a knock at his door and it's EL with his phone. She says she's sorry she didn't notice it earlier, but whenever it vibrated, she and her roommate "thought someone left the vibrator on." (GF & I agree: Few people are accidentally going to leave a vibe on, and even then, when they realize it, NO ONE is just going to let it keep running for 2 hours. The ONLY reason she said that was to make him think about having sex with her.) He thanks her but then tells her that the way she's been acting has his GF uncomfortable and he's not going to hang out with her anymore, and pretty much shuts the door on her.

For a couple days, nothing happens, he never sees her, and he's feeling better. THEN he gets a call while he's in class and lets it go to voicemail. After class, he checks his voicemail, and there's a message from her totally BAWLING with vague statements about how something totally wretchedly horrible has happened and she needs him NOW. Thinking some family member of hers is DEAD, he rushes to her dorm room. Knocks on the door. She answers, completely emotionally FINE, and TOTALLY NAKED. He's pretty much, "fuck no!" and leaves, and she chases him down the hall, still naked, screaming her head off at him.

"Harmless" my ASS. Now, I hang around a lot of geeks. I work for a convention (2 cons now) and was a anime club's princess (token girl) for a while. Some people come off as creepy who aren't -- they're just unsocialized. But as soon as they give you unwanted physical contact or tell you what their unwelcomed intentions are, you GET YOUR ASS OUT OF THERE. The GF & I are still worried that she's going to pop up again and do something horrible to him. :(

The one last thing that drives me crazy about this whole thing, is that I know from high school that if I guy does it, MOST other guys will be like "WTF is wrong with you?" If a chick does it, this is a totally acceptable way to "get your man" (ESPECIALLY if he's dating someone else), and is totally encouraged by many of the other girls. I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if the EL's roomie knew about this and encouraged everything.

Edited at 2009-05-14 02:35 pm (UTC)

I read his review and all I have to say is "YES, YOU CAN BLAME MIKE, YOU STUPID MORON!" The only mistake Sue made was in not realizing when he showed up with wine and champagne the best course of action would be to politely refuse, and banging a guy you hardly know has always seemed a bit slutty to me, but that's just me. Her responsibility/liability begins and ends with giving him the idea she's interested in him. What he does after that is totally and completely HIS decision. Normal guys get a phone number or email to stay in touch with the woman after she leaves. If she does not leave that information, normal guys are disappointed but manage to move on. Normal guys do not fly across the country and show up at her place of work without telling her first--that's what men who are not "harmless" do. If a normal guy were that hung up on a woman he'd want to fly across the country right away, he'd contact her and ask when she's free to go get some dinner and drinks, etc.

Forcing yourself, be it sexually or showing up where she works and demanding her time and company, on a woman is never right and never her fault. I don't care if she was all over you like white on rice last night at the club and practically dragged you out outside so you two could get it on behind the dumpster, unless she indicates she wants to see/talk to you again, you do not a) show up at her house or at one of her friend's houses, b) call her and ask her to reconsider, or c) do anything other than take 'no' for an answer.

I just had a thought: if the genders were reversed and it were Maria the motel manager and Sam who was in town for business, would Mr. Idiot reviewing the movie consider *her* harmless? Would he say it's Sam's fault she did that because he sent the wrong message when they got it on?

He'd be a gentleman and humor her for dinner and then try to let her down gently, but since this movie is a guy going after a woman, clearly she owes it to him to do dinner and drinks and a screw because, hey, she banged him before so he's not at all out of line for thinking she'd want to bang again, no question.

We've come so far, and yet have so very far to go...I think I'll hit the freezer for some vanilla. There's toffee I can put on it--and don't forget the sprinkles!

Appeal to a wider market. *snickers* Riiiiiiiight. Until they can make soy ice cream taste like regular ice cream and they stop selling the soy in the natural foods section, the "wider market" will continue to pass it by, the same way Sci-Fi Channel changing its name to Sy-Fi isn't going to appeal to those who see sci-fi as the domain of Star Trek geeks in costume who live in their parents' basement and have no lives.